Weddings by default become all about the bride, and grooms as a result tend to loose interest rapidly. In my experience most grooms are interested in a few details, maybe the food or the guest list, but overall they are relatively apathetic about the affair. Objectively can you blame them- the whole event is bride focused, starting with a diamond continuing with dresses, flowers, and all things girly.
So what to do if you want your hubby to be to enjoy the day too!
Three pieces of advice I savored when planning:
1. Spend as much on the grooms outfit as on yours- if you can justify $700 dollar shoes, why shouldn't your groom get to wear an equally special pair. Rental tuxes are ill fitting and generic, spend the time searching out a great suit for your groom and his excitement level may just increase!
Groom's shoes by Alden's by Leffot - (available here)
Brides shoes by Christian Loubutian-no longer available (similar available here)
Suit Jacket by Mario Matteo (old)
Shirt by Bespoken
Tie by Drake's
Pants by Marni (no longer available)
2. This day is not just about the bride, the wedding should be a reflection of both of you and that means compromise on both sides. So have the discussion and make him compromise and get involved and make the compromises he wants too!
3. Remember in the end the wedding is just one day of an awesome life together. You have already had amazing memories and will create many more. Be allies not enemies, the truth is if you can't plan a wedding you might have some serious trouble dealing with the more trying issues of life. So put it in perspective!
I compromised a lot at my wedding, but all and all the day was glorious and my husband was over the moon!
All photos by the talented Emilia Jane
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